The Chris Brown and Rihanna story is so hot right now
that I couldn’t avoid it, no matter how hard I tried.
I need to start by saying that
I am not Shahrazad Ali and I in no way condone violence against women
or anyone for that matter.
But I haven’t put a scarlet letter on Chris Brown just yet.
I don’t know the whole story.
I don’t know if what has been reported so far is actually true.
And there haven’t been any photos released.
I want to boldly reiterate that I DO NOT THINK THAT A MAN SHOULD EVER STRIKE A WOMAN.
Many people are calling Chris Brown an animal, a woman beater,
saying that his career is all but over.
There are reports of his upbringing
and what could possibly be the reason for his violent behavior.
Many are calling for us to address our young men
about violence and abuse against women.
And I wholeheartedly agree.
This incident gives us a great opportunity to have
open and meaningful discussions
about domestic abuse with our children and with one another.
But while we’re telling our young men that they
shouldn’t strike the ones they claim to love,
Let’s also tell our little girls that it’s not okay to let someone hit them.
And while we’re looking into what would make Chris Brown hit a woman,
we should also be looking at what would make Rihanna accept this behavior.
Sources say that this relationship was turbulent/violent long before last Sunday.
Will this hurt Chris Brown’s career?
I’m not so sure.
I have to confess that I may be a little jaded.
Jaded because I remember the Mike Tyson/ Robin Givens debacle.
I remember him still being pretty famous and popular
after she said that he’d beat her.
I actually remember her career taking a turn for the worst.
Jaded because I remember Tupac coming out of prison on a rape charge
and releasing one of the hottest cd’s in the country.
Jaded because maybe I’ve seen ‘What’s Love Got To Do With It’
more times than I can count.
I could just be in denial.
I've asked myself questions like,
Are we outraged because they are both young, beautiful and famous?
Are we outraged because Chris Brown is a cute and bubbly teenager with a squeaky clean image- and we just can't believe he'd do such a thing?
I wonder if everyone is upset because a woman was
attacked or because it’s Rihanna.
Would we care so much if Lil' Wayne was accused of assaulting Karrine Steffans?
Would we care so much if it were Monique from around the way?
Everyone has an opinion on the matter.
I just want to wait until all of the evidence is out.
I wonder what we’ll say when/if Rihanna forgives
him and the relationship continues.
What will we say when/if Chris Brown sells more records
or becomes an even bigger star?
Are we going to be okay? Will we forget and keep it moving?
And if so, what will that say about us?
5 comments:
I hate that one moment catapaulted them both into possible "social pariahs"....when they were at their repsective "peaks" It is a sad situation and I'm not taking anything the press says about this without a shot of tequila!
That picture of her was pretty bad.
I Loved the way you worded this situation.... not agreeing with either side but agreeing that ANY abuse is bad.
I personally think that Rhianna PROVOKED this to happen and Chris Brown couldn't take it anymore and SNAPPED.. lol. not that its right to hit someone but if someone is constantly hitting you and verbally abusing you, ENOUGH IS ENOUGH.
I do know that I BRUISE easily and I do know that I like my man to bite me during love making that leaves bruises on my body for days because my skin is light... THAT'S ALL I DO KNOW.........
Mama -- you always have a good blog for thought! LOL. I love your view on the world. Keep it coming!
Sorry to be posting so late on this but here's my take. You have two very young people in adult situations that they are not ready for. The gossips says she's jealous and controlling. I'm sure he's jealous to some degree as well. He's 19 and she just turned 21 and they are superstars to boot. At that age you really can't expect any measure of fidelity from either party. How bout neither one of them knows who the hell they are at this point. I am not saying that I agree with the abuse but again you must know your audience when you are running your mouth. I know that I can be outta pocket and I have started a couple of physical fights my damn self but, again I knew my audience. I knew that I wasn't gonna get my ass kicked. I read the affidavit on CNN yesterday and I found it to be quite disturbing. This situation is a great teaching lesson for parents. Number 1 instill self love into your daughters make sure she knows what to accept and what to reject when it comes to a guy she's seeing/or thinks she may love. The verbal abuse starts before the physical. The verbal is the barometer used to measure what's allowable. If that is allowed it escalates from there. It's unfortunate because they are still finding themselves and each of them need counseling.
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